This is Part 4 of the 6 part series all about self-love. You can find part 1 HERE, part 2 HERE, and part 3 HERE.

Do you know how self-love impacts those you love?

I know you love so many people, you care for others and make their happiness a priority in your life. It is a wonderful thing to be so caring and giving, but I have a few questions for you…

How often do you feel worn out or even sick?

How often are you unable to follow through on your obligations?

How often often do you skip something for yourself to do something for someone else?

Be honest with yourself on these questions and if it feels like these things happen a lot, then I warn you that you are not doing what is best for yourself or the people you love.

If you are not caring yourself and showing yourself the love and respect you deserve, then you are not going to be able to show up for other people in the way that you want.

If you catch yourself giving much more love, care, and attention to others instead of yourself here are some ways to return some of that to yourself so that you can show up in bigger ways to the people around you.

1. When you catch yourself buying or giving a gift to someone you care about, make sure you get yourself a gift too. This can be a good reminder that if you are doing something thoughtful or generous for someone else, you can check in with yourself and show yourself that same thoughtfulness and generosity.
2. When you catch yourself compromising for someone else, make sure you compromise for yourself too. Maybe you will take a sick day to care for someone else, but if you are sick you will push through. Let’s stop that. Ask yourself, “If this was someone else would I be ignoring it and pushing through or would I make some compromises to care for them?”

Not only are you able to show up for other people better when you are showing up for yourself, you are also showing other people how you expect to be treated. If you treat yourself without love or care, you will attract people into your life who do not think it is important to treat you with love or care. You will attract people who want you to take care of them and love them, but are unable to give much back. Have you experienced that in the past? I know I have, and it is a big red flag that you are not giving yourself enough self-love.

So, practice showing yourself the love you want to attract in your relationships.

• Catch the words you say to yourself.
  • How would you feel if it was a loved one saying those things to you. Or, what you if you were saying those things to a loved one. If you wouldn’t say it to someone else you love, don’t say it to yourself.
• Check your boundaries.
  • Are you allowing other people to take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? If you don’t want others to walk all over you, start with creating clear boundaries for yourself that are based in love.
• Make time for yourself.
  • Take yourself on a date and treat yourself the way you want other people to treat you. Start with yourself and expand from there.

Share with me in the comments below how you are going to create more self-love in your life so that you can love others better.

I want you to join me in the Self-Love Quest which is a free 5 day event of epic self-love.

Much love, Danielle